Abuse, in any form – is okay – or neutral …. the messages I have received all my life and I still am.
It’s society’s way……. the church way……. child abuse is okay, abuse in marriage is okay, spiritual abuse is okay.
And of course the victim is the problem, the issue. The victim needs to stay quiet. And it is always the victim fault.
In fact – to call themselves a victim, is being pathetic and acting a victim. Just suck it up and get over it already and be nice to the abusers – they are nice/good people really, they are the ones who deserve the compassion and good/positive labels, not the victims.
It’s love, compassion, mercy, grace….. to condone and accept abuse…….. is the church way.