Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It’s sad how many are sucked into believing abusers ‘can’t help it’.


A recent post to my page…

It amazes me how many people get sucked into believing narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths/paedophiles …… ‘can’t help’ what they do when hurting/abusing others. Even mental health professionals get sucked in.

They can ‘help it’.

They are ‘unwilling’ to stop.

Not ‘unable’.

And the very fact that they can behave appropriately around people and ‘choose’ who they prey upon to harm, and do it behind closed doors, and often lie about it, deny it etc…..shows how they *do* know what is good and what is harmful behaviour.

And the ‘excuses’ made about them being abused themselves….. still does ‘not’ take away from the fact that they do ‘choose’ to behave in abusive ways.

They are not psychotic, they are not ‘insane’ – they *do* know right from wrong……. they just lack the willingness to have empathy, conscience, remorse, guilt and they often ‘enjoy’ what they do.

This is as per experts in personality disorders, so please do not fall for anyone stating that they ‘can’t help it’.

Society needs to stop making excuses

for abusive people.

Society needs to stop minimizing,

justifying, normalising and

excusing what they do.

Abuse is increasing and people with these types of personality disorders, are often those causing this increasing abuse.

We need to stop making excuses and having misplaced compassion and realise that when people make choices to harm others, this is never okay.

This is not a page for making ‘excuses’ for abuse ……. and I remind everyone, this is page that is dealing with the life impacting and devastating abuse, many of these personality disordered people have chosen to inflict, wrecking lives, causing suicide and life long mental health issues.

And I am not stating any of this to incite hatred, or revenge, or retaliation  ….. but to deal with the ‘reality’ of how abuse is caused, and to support the victims of all this abuse – because the victims did not deserve for these people to choose to inflict abuse upon them.

Abuse is wrong, disgusting and never ‘excusable’.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “It’s sad how many are sucked into believing abusers ‘can’t help it’.

  1. Reblogged this on GettingrealwithPTSD and commented:
    This cannot be said too often.

  2. This cannot be said too often.