At my last counselling session, where I wanted to explain how I know I am not an easy client, the first words out of my counsellors mouth – were about ‘misbehaving’ clients and how others wouldn’t tolerate me as a client.
I haven’t done anything other than what she told me repeatedly to do….let her know what was bothering me.
It is very patronising to talk about clients ‘misbehaving’ and she herself has spoken to me about things which are completely inappropriate for me to hear. And I’ve had this validated by other mental health professionals.
I think my counsellor is someone who rarely hears how she might be wrong, how her views may not be wisdom, how I disagree with some of her thinking and how I know she lacks empathy and have given examples.
I think she is more used to people telling her how wonderful she is. She is used to having big audiences to clap at what she says and people around her talking about her in positive ways.
She probably hasn’t had many willing to be as honest as me. And willing to think about what she says, disagree and explain why.
So, whilst I see that I am not easy, due to my capacity to discern and work through why things don’t seem okay and really process why, and then be honest about what I think……. I don’t believe this is ‘misbehaving’ at all. Especially when I was asked to say what bothers me.
But, if it is needed to patronise and talk about ‘misbehaving’, my counsellor has done a fair bit of ‘misbehaving’, herself.