Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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The Silent Treatment – passive aggressive punishment, designed to produce Fear, Obligation & Guilt.


The silent treatment is….

A passive-aggressive form of emotional abuse in which displeasure, disapproval and contempt is exhibited through nonverbal gestures while maintaining verbal silence.

It is always passive aggressive when the other person involved is not aware of ‘why’ the silence is occurring and where normally communication would be forthcoming, and no explanation is given for the unusual silence.

It differs to a needed timeout or a needed break to compose self, or avoid circular conversations etc – because there is no timeframe, no re-assurance that communication will resume and there are no healthy reasons offered, for the silence.

It is about the motivation for the silence, and the way it is handled and explained to the person being avoided.

So it isn’t constructive, it is destructive and harmful.

The Silent Treatment is rarely a good approach to problem solving or problem resolution.

A good explanation for it is given here …..


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “The Silent Treatment – passive aggressive punishment, designed to produce Fear, Obligation & Guilt.

  1. The church I left was good at this…especially the leadership…. I cant stand that treatment…just thinking about it triggers me

  2. Silent treatment is bullshit. Once again i am getting it because of my status on fbk. My husband seems to think that me writing that i have issues is all about him and people will think him and i are the issue. We aren’t. But we are becoming an issue. And i don’t know what to do. He says I’m crazy and that im starting to lose my mind. It doesn’t help that i believe him.