Most people don’t have the courage to have integrity to be honest, all the time.

March 25, 2015 by Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD 1 Comment

Honesty, and the capacity to be honest all the time, even under difficult situations, and situations where in the wrong, are not common.

Honesty is a virtue I truly treasure in people, because it is necessary, to be able to trust someone.

If you know someone lies, or distorts the truth, or gaslights, or fails to take ownership of their issues, wrongs……. then you can’t trust them. It is as simple as that.

All those covert behaviours – lying, lying by omission, telling half truths, gas lighting, manipulating the truth, failing to take ownership…. are narcissism, and I will spot these behaviours in people.

And I actually wish I didn’t spot this all the time. Because I see them often and it leads to a lack of trust and an awareness, this person is selfishly self motivated, and lacks the capacity for integrity and honesty.

It takes courage and the willingness to put someone’s else’s needs first, and inner strength, to be a really honest person.

And I know that the capacity for integrity to honesty, also creates negativity from others in their responses, as they do not want to deal in truth and reality.

I think it is really sad, that this quote, is true.

Other people’s lack of honesty, lack of integrity creates fear in me, because I have been dealing with this my whole life.

Every significant person in my life,

has been a liar.

I won’t tolerate it any more.

And if someone lies to me, or gaslights me, or is trying to manipulate me, I will tell them I know.