I have learned a lot of lessons over the last 3-5 years.
Church people, can be the most selfish, deluded and messed up people of all.
They often avoid, minimize, excuse, justify, rationalise, condone and all too often encourage abuse, of different forms. And protect and enable abusers. Under the excuse of (cheap) grace, supposed mercy and forgiveness.
My ex-counsellor, was a church person with clear agenda’s of condoning abuse, raising up abusers, minimizing what they do and shaming victims. Even referring to abusive relationships as ‘adequate’. It’s the church way.
They can be quite cult-like in their needs to condone abuse and I see their issues, and how they hurt people, even though they are blind to it, or worse – some know they are doing it and enjoy it.