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Religious people can be ‘stunningly offensive’ and they often really don’t care.



The news and social media is awash with many disgusted by this priests ‘stunningly offensive’ victim blaming comments about Jill Meagher.

And even though he has apologised – I know this apology is likely to be only forced – due to the public backlash against him and to protect the Catholic Church’s image.

I know for a fact that victim blaming occurs with many religious people.

I’ve been subjected to it in ‘Christian’ counselling.

Victim blaming is a common viewpoint in religious people and it is not just the Catholic church. The church overall has a huge history of protecting and enabling paedophiles, condoning domestic violence in marriages, physical and sexual child abuse, condoning masses of spiritual abuse….. plus these views of how a woman raped and murdered by a predator, is ‘her own fault’ …… are all very common issues.

When you challenge religious people, they often truly don’t care and stand by their abusive views 100% – as they can be the worst for disordered, dysfunctional and abusive views.

Victim blaming is widespread and increasing and no-where is that more present than within religious people.

They don’t care at all if they hurt, offend and damage people with their views.

They are truly hell-bent on their destruction, often completely deluded into believing they are right.

The only good that comes from this – is it opens up the dialogue about victim blaming and how widespread this is and how truly disgusting it is.

Dialogue and education are needed.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Religious people can be ‘stunningly offensive’ and they often really don’t care.

  1. I agree. I hate religion. So did Jesus. Religion is man made, that’s why they blame, cuz they can’t see straight through the plank in their eyes.

    • This is why I don’t go to church, because churches aren’t what they are meant to be, at all.

      Religion, all the mind control, all the judgment, how badly they treat victims of abuse, and protect and enable abusive people …. makes me know to stay well away.

      A ‘sheep’ – I am not.

      And it is common in people who have progressed past the ‘stage 3’ faith progression stage, to stay away from churches – due to all the issues that go on within them.

      The stages on faith info by James Fowler, was such an eye opener for me, one of those real ‘ahhhh I understand now’ moments.

      Most church people stay stuck as ‘stage 3’ all their lives.

      I’ve blogged about that too.