There are many people who claim to be healed/healing from PTSD and Complex PTSD. And for those who truly are healed – I am so thankful for that and I truly think it is wonderful! It can happen for some people.
But for those who then ‘tell’ everyone else they ‘should’ be able to heal and the same way…….. they truly need to be quiet.
All they are doing is showing a complete lack of empathy and wisdom and instead shaming others who are not healing in the same way.
They are deluding themselves this is ‘inspiration’, but it isn’t for those who’s journey’s are very different. It is demoralising, hurtful and shame inducing.
Each journey is very different and that needs to be recognised and accepted.
If it takes someone a few years to heal,
or 10 years, or 30 years,
or a lifetime….
That is all ‘equally’ okay.
‘Shaming’ survivors for not healing in the same way, or as fast, is not helping anyone.
By comparing and shaming in this way, more trauma occurs and the person not healing the ‘same way’ or ‘as fast’ – is made to feel worse, feel weak and worthless.
I wish people would understand this.
People need to realise, their own journey is very unique and so is everyone else’s.
Get out of that egocentric – ‘my journey is the only journey mindset’ – and think about others and the effect their words and attitudes have on others.
Accept people’s journey’s are where they are at, and that IS okay. Show empathy and compassion – as that is what is needed.