Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I am SO over having people compare their journey’s.

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There are many people who claim to be healed/healing from PTSD and Complex PTSD. And for those who truly are healed – I am so thankful for that and I truly think it is wonderful! It can happen for some people.

But for those who then ‘tell’ everyone else they ‘should’ be able to heal and the same way…….. they truly need to be quiet.

All they are doing is showing a complete lack of empathy and wisdom and instead shaming others who are not healing in the same way.

They are deluding themselves this is ‘inspiration’, but it isn’t for those who’s journey’s are very different. It is demoralising, hurtful and shame inducing.

Each journey is very different and that needs to be recognised and accepted.

If it takes someone a few years to heal,

or 10 years, or 30 years,

or a lifetime….

That is all ‘equally’ okay.

‘Shaming’ survivors for not healing in the same way, or as fast, is not helping anyone.

By comparing and shaming in this way, more trauma occurs and the person not healing the ‘same way’ or ‘as fast’ – is made to feel worse, feel weak and worthless.

I wish people would understand this.

People need to realise, their own journey is very unique and so is everyone else’s.

Get out of that egocentric – ‘my journey is the only journey mindset’ – and think about others and the effect their words and attitudes have on others.

Accept people’s journey’s are where they are at, and that IS okay. Show empathy and compassion – as that is what is needed.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “I am SO over having people compare their journey’s.

  1. I love this!   Like all your posts, this feels directly written to me at exactly the time I need to hear it.     Rather, at the time that I can hear it.     As a fellow complex PTSD survivor, I know you know exactly what this means.   You are wonderful, and I’m so grateful to have found your posts with all your wisdom. I am lucky that I have a wonderful trauma therapist.     My journey is taking years and it is what it is.     I get angry with myself for not progressing faster through all this, but she never pushes, and reading these words reminds me that I am making progress and to be extra grateful that I have one person in my life who gets this. If ever you’d like to write, I would love that.    We have similar stories, and it’s difficult to share with those who don’t have either the energy or time or empathy to be there for us.   I am here and I would only try to offer a sympathetic ear.     I think that’s what we all need.      Thank you!!Maura