Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Profoundly unusual lives, due to prolonged childhood complex trauma… produces profoundly different needs.

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Reading ‘The Road Less Travelled’ – Dr M Scott Peck, has been a real eye opener for me. In terms of understanding my needs are different, but also to know there are some people out there, who understand these needs.

My trust issues, are massive, and I know that. I have those deep fear issues about trust, and abandonment, for very profound reasons. Reasons that were never my fault, that I never deserved, that I should never have endured.

I don’t want to feel shamed about this anymore. My needs are my needs. I cannot change what they are and just because I have insight and understanding about myself and my needs and can express this, does not make me wrong.

Profoundly unusual lives, with prolonged childhood trauma…….. produces profoundly different needs. 

I cannot be expected to be someone with average needs – like those raised within average ‘good enough’ childhoods.

I’m not average. There is nothing wrong with average. And there is nothing ‘wrong’ in being me either. I am a product of my childhood. A product of considerable trauma and abuse. From birth.

I am who I am, and I’m not a bad person.

But, I have different needs, to your average person and I accept that. And as a result, I need ‘different’ relationships, not average ones.

Because average relationships, don’t meet my non average needs.

And I need those willing to go above and beyond the average.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Profoundly unusual lives, due to prolonged childhood complex trauma… produces profoundly different needs.

  1. My trust issues, are massive, and I know that. I have those deep fear issues about trust, and abandonment, for very profound reasons. Reasons that were never my fault, that I never deserved, that I should never have endured.
    I don’t want to feel shamed about this anymore. My needs are my needs. I cannot change what they are and just because I have insight and understanding about myself and my needs and can express this, does not make me wrong.

    Thank you for saying this. I’ve been struggling with feeling wrong or bad because my needs are different and I have trust issues. I think often we’re made to feel this way also, that we’re asking too much because of our different needs, or that we’re the ones that need to be fixed to conform to what other people think we should be. A lot to think about here.

  2. I appreciate you sharing this post. I also have severe trust and abandonment issues because of early childhood trauma. So far, the trust issue has not been alleviated. My husband always tells me what I should do to trust people, even with sharing my history, “so they understand.” We know these people will not be able to understand. I go to church and they always share the “Love of our Father) something of which I can’t absorb. I also don’t want to be shamed because I don’t even trust God and haven’t changed. I believe in Him, but I still question the validity of it being genuine. Reading this post and the replies lets me know that I am not alone with these feelings. Thanks so much for sharing!