I hate that expression ‘all parents just do their best’. Just read this on Twitter, and it’s really upset me.
So wrong and completely minimizes child abuse and makes excuses for abusers.
My ‘parents’ did not fucking ‘try their best’ at all.
They intentionally harmed me, daily. They knew what they were doing was wrong, because they hid it, lied about it and made me keep quiet about it.
I hate abuse being minimized, justified and excused.
Really, really upsets me, and I know this attitude upsets others.
And I know people who make these statements don’t mean to cause harm, but they do.
A lot of abuse in this world, is intentional. The perpetrators do know it is wrong, and they do it anyway, because they don’t care about the harm and suffering it causes.
My childhood was horrific, and in no way could anyone ever deem that my mother and step father ‘did their best’.
Invalidation, minimizing the suffering of abuse victims, excusing abusers deliberate harm…….. I cannot cope with.