Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Typical, a church person ‘had’ to come to my blog and ‘tell’ me about forgiveness… and shame me some more.


I wrote a recently blog about how I am a Christian and I have every right to judge those who abused me intentionally and enjoyed it.

Typically, a church person ‘had’ to come along and ‘tell’ me that God won’t forgive me of my sins – if I don’t forgive my abusers of theirs, and how ‘she forgave’ people. Spiritual abuse. Religious shaming. How dare she fucking ‘tell’ me how fucking wonderful she thinks she is, and how I should think like her. Who is she? God. No.

And also she went on to ‘tell’ me all about what ‘she’ has done – just to shame me some more. Even using phrases like ‘you may not like this but…..’.

Abusive people love those phrases….. it’s like saying ‘I may be a bitch saying this but…..’. All it shows, is ‘you are a bitch’. If you know something is likely to hurt someone and you don’t even know them, don’t fucking say it. It’s called ’empathy’.

Some people have such a lack of empathy and such an ‘entitlement’ attitude to ‘tell’ others what they should think and do and lord it over people who are not doing the same.

Quite frankly, she can leave me and my blog alone.

She can take her opinions and her religious attitudes and her shaming and shove them up her butt.

And I don’t give a flying fuck whether she is some ‘author’.

I am so sick of church people and their opinions.

Leave me the fuck alone.

This is why I don’t go to church. They can be the worst for shaming abuse survivors.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “Typical, a church person ‘had’ to come to my blog and ‘tell’ me about forgiveness… and shame me some more.

  1. They are the worst. That’s why I stopped going. Hypocritical too. So rude to do that. And that is where allot of abuse stems from. Religion. And people using it to their own interpretation

    • There is considerable abuse caused by church people, and they truly believe it is okay to hurt people, shame people – in the ‘name of God’.

      Shaming people is their religious speciality.

      We have every right to be annoyed, angry about this. It is abuse.

  2. The minute someone starts telling me that their process is my process and they know all Truth, I know I’m talking to a Control Freak.

    It’s all the rage nowadays to behave horribly and then run and hide behind the Bible.

    • Exactly. Controlling, egotistic, narcissistic, shame projecting, immature faith people, who use faith as an excuse to harm others and feel totally entitled to do so.

      I’ve had enough ‘shaming’ in my life, from many abusive people already, I don’t need anymore, or deserve anymore.