Unless you are an abuse survivor who is continually positive, continually looking at the bright side and telling everyone how well you are doing and how strong you are…….. you are written off as weak, acting like a victim and a failure.
Society demands success, demands positivity, demands outer strength, even at the expense of lying and denying the truth. By society’s standards, and many other survivors, I am a failure.
I am honest, genuine and speak exactly what this journey can be like for many. There are many profound reasons why this journey is not an escalator ride up, is not about being positive and how to assume it should be, is unhealthy and wrong. Survivors are shamed in this way all the time.
Society raises ‘success stories’ up all the time, to show you what you ‘should’ be doing. Other survivors who claim to be healed – parade their stories as a success and an inspiration, telling others this is what they should be doing. They don’t stop and realise that may be their idea of inspiration, but their journey is different and should ‘not’ be compared, because there are countless reasons that affect healing journey’s.
Does the fact that I am not a ‘success story’ in society’s terms of success, make me failure? Weak?
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