I have come to realise virtually every single person who has had an opinion on my life, all those who ‘tell’ me what I should think/feel and give their opinion about abuse, about abusers….. are simply projecting their own needs, and how ‘they’ need/choose to cope with life.
Their opinions and their views have never actually been about me, or what is in my interests. It is purely for themselves, projected outwards and onto me.
Those who need to minimize/trivialise abuse, defend/enable abusers, victim blame/shame, project platitudes, or a certain road in healing/speed of healing, are doing that simply because that is how ‘they’ choose cope.
Those who demand compassion for abusers and ignore the reality of what abusers are and the reality of the suffering they intentionally chose to inflict, are simply doing that simply because that is how ‘they’ choose to cope.
Those who claim I am not positive enough, not XYZ enough, criticise my journey, are doing that simply because that is how ‘they’ choose to cope.
Those who project toxic religious views and judgments, are doing that simply because that is how ‘they’ choose to cope.
None of it is about any real empathy, at all.
And none of it, has anything to do with me, or my needs, or my healing.
And none of it, is about wisdom or compassion. It is all self serving.
Which is why I know I need to ignore it all.