Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Being the abused child of a narcissistic parent……. profoundly affects the adult survivor.

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Interesting article https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201405/narcissistic-parents-psychological-effect-their-children

Always good to see professionals and experts confirming and validating just how damaging these personality disordered caregivers are and validating the profound effect their abuse has on their children and the adults they become.

From the article…

Because the narcissistic parent-child bond was so distorted and corrupt, the offspring as adults tend to gravitate toward drama-laden, roller-coaster relationships – especially with romantic partners.

Because they didn’t grow up with the belief that they were intrinsically okay and good, it makes perfect sense that these individuals would gravitate toward stormy romantic partners later.

These adults would feel like a fish out of water in a relationship with someone who loved them consistently, and the experience would be so unfamiliar that it would cause major anxiety.

Accordingly, these individuals tend to seek out partners who are emotionally unavailable, critical or withholding – just like Mommy and/or Daddy was in the past.

In short, the only kind of relationship the adult child of a narcissist really fits in with is one with a highly skewed dynamic:

The child of the narcissist must cater to and keep their partner happy, even when that involves squashing her own needs and feelings.


This is very true of my life.

I don’t know what it feels like to be loved by a healthy person, I’ve never experienced it.

And I do know that healthy relationships are required to heal complex trauma and so I accept that as I don’t have this, this will continue to impact my life.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Being the abused child of a narcissistic parent……. profoundly affects the adult survivor.

  1. Thank you so much for posting the link to the article because it was a huge help to me along with all the comments posted at the end of the article!!

    I’m so grateful that I found your blog because I’ve been so isolated & had given up. But now I have a source of comfort, validation & tools 24 hours a day!!