Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I am definitely becoming more assertive and it is needed.


I have had soft boundaries all my life. It comes with the territory of being a severe child abuse survivor, who’s parents were abusive. I didn’t learn boundaries, or how to protect myself adequately.

Unhealthy/dysfunctional people, people who wish minimize my trauma, people who project their own issues – are not people I need to be around. As much as I understand they have issues, they cannot be causing harm to my healing and my wellbeing. I am not a counsellor. I don’t deserve any more harm.

And I do not have to explain this, or justify this, to anyone. If I need to remove people from my life, I will. If I need to tell someone who is in my life – they are harming me, I will.

My healing and my capacity to cope, affects my parenting and my children are my No 1 priority, not people on the internet.

I need to look after myself and my healing, my wellbeing, because I need to parent to my fullest capacity and my children deserve this from me. So anyone who stands in the way of that, anyone who harms my healing – intentionally or unintentionally – cannot remain in my life.

I need to block out other people’s opinions and issues, because I cannot emotionally afford to be affected by them.

Boundaries are vital and in order to continue any healing, parent as best I can and be providing info on the internet for others……. my boundaries need to be firm.

I owe no-one an explanation or justification for that.

I need to be assertive and I need to protect my healing.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “I am definitely becoming more assertive and it is needed.

  1. Completely agree with you ❤