Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I love it when I am reminded of the Starfish Story

star fish

This story is what it is all about.

“Once upon a time, there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work.
One day, as he was walking along the shore, he looked down the beach and saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself at the thought of someone who would dance to the day, and so, he walked faster to catch up.
As he got closer, he noticed that the figure was that of a young man, and that what he was doing was not dancing at all. The young man was reaching down to the shore, picking up small objects, and throwing them into the ocean.
He came closer still and called out “Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?”
The young man paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean.”
“I must ask, then, why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?” asked the somewhat startled wise man.
To this, the young man replied, “The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them in, they’ll die.”
Upon hearing this, the wise man commented, “But, young man, do you not realize that there are miles and miles of beach and there are starfish all along every mile? You can’t possibly make a difference!”
At this, the young man bent down, picked up yet another starfish, and threw it into the ocean. As it met the water, he said,
“It made a difference for that one.”

– Loren Eiseley


This young man, had more wisdom than the wise man.

It’s not about numbers.

It’s not about thinking you can reach everyone, or even many.

It’s not about thinking unless you make a dramatic difference, then don’t try.

It’s about reaching a few.

Reaching who you can and that being enough.

It’s about knowing the ones you reached, mattered.

So for all those who I don’t reach, who don’t need or want the messages I have, who are not ready to hear my work, who have a different journey to mine, who need something different, those who don’t appreciate the work I do, who just want to be nasty, who reject my truth – that’s all okay.

I don’t have to reach them.

I am okay with ones I do reach.

The ones I do impact and help.

Because they matter.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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