Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Too many therapists are pushing abuse victims to feel compassion for abusers, and harming the victims healing.


Many therapists are far too ‘opinionated’ and lack insight into complex trauma, and are there just to push their views and their own agenda’s. It is well known that therapists can be ego seekers and they push their own opinions, regardless of how that harms their clients. And too many therapists have big ego’s and work outside of their own capacity of insight and needed understanding of complex trauma.

I just read of a survivor who fired her therapist who kept on defending the clients narc mother, yet never even asked what the mother had done and didn’t even know details of the abuse. So the survivor hadn’t dealt with her emotions either.

So wrong and so damaging.

How dare that therapist demand that survivor dismiss the suffering caused and invalidate the survivors needed  emotions, grieving etc.

How dare she demand that survivor have compassion for the narc mother. Narcs know what they are doing wrong, they enjoy it and have no empathy for their victims. That is not okay, not justifiable.

I am so sick of hearing about therapists defending abusers, harming already traumatised abuse survivors.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “Too many therapists are pushing abuse victims to feel compassion for abusers, and harming the victims healing.

  1. Awesome posting! I so agree with this-and this extends to everyone, not just therapists. DOn’t defend the abuser to the victim- EVER!

  2. I’ve realized that the therapists I saw were just as screwed up, if not more, than I am.

  3. One therapist I saw kept invalidating my experiences. I kept thinking I wasn’t explaining it right or good enough.

    Kept thinking if I explain it this way or that way she’ll “get it”.

    Reached the point where I dreaded going & finally stopped. Had been a complete waste of time & money.

    Realized from this situation that if a therapist or others don’t “get it” in the first 15 minutes they’re never going to.