A post to my page…..
It is so wrong when people who have moved along a journey, then choose to accuse everyone else who they assume isn’t at that point they are at… as having ‘victim mentality’.
The very phrase ‘victim mentality’ is so empathy impoverished, so judgmental and lacking in any understanding of how people’s journey’s are differently impacted by many factors.
It is also stating their journey is ‘as bad as it can be’ and if ‘they’ healed, so should everyone else.
No-one can say their journey is the worst, their suffering is the worst, their journey is the hardest, but we also need to recognise not all trauma/suffering is equal either.
‘Victim shaming’ is a sport these days for many…. and sadly often by those who were once victims themselves – who then deem themselves to not be victims anymore.
‘Victim shaming’ others, only indicates and displays they are not as healed as they think they are…… but they have in fact developed ego’s and a need to consider themselves ‘better’ ‘stronger’ than others. That is not ‘healed’. Continue reading