My recent posts have ruffled a few unhealthy feathers.
I’ve had people comment, message and email me and ‘tell’ me I should not be encouraging people to have boundaries from their abusers. Of course these are people who; have abused/harmed people themselves, or are toxic religious people, or very misguided or controlling ‘black and white thinking’ people. All of whom are often so very dysfunctional and harmful in their views. And the least likely to have any self insight.
I absolutely know what I am dealing with when people are suggesting survivors of abuse should stay in abusive relationships and demand they should forgive their abusers.
These are the views of toxic, unhealthy, dysfunctional, abuser enabling, or abuse perpetrating people.
I don’t tell people to stay in toxic, co-dependent, unhealthy, harmful relationships. Everyone has the right to live a life free from harm.
Abusive people do not get to demand forgiveness from their victims. That is the survivors choice. In their time. If they choose to. In accordance with their own healing needs. Continue reading