Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Support from professionals, and great timing too.

I’ve had an amazing review (which made me cry) today from a trauma therapist/complex trauma survivor, and a Ph.D psychologist also contact me stating she will provide a review.

Plus I noticed several mental health professionals sharing my posts today. Posts about the deeper realities of this journey, deeper insight, the issues  I see within the mental health profession etc. Posts that are not always the popular opinion, but are more honest. And I’ve had that honesty validated.

I am blessed to have this support. And I am so appreciative and thankful for it. It helps me to know I am on the right track and affirms my insight, and helps others know my work is valuable and shared by professionals. Continue reading


Family time.

Today, I put the Deep Heat on, swallowed some strong Ibuprofen to relieve pain in my back, and went out …. having some family time at one my boys favourite play areas “the wooden park” as they call it. It is also by the coast, so that’s nice too. It was good to get out the house and see the boys having fun ❤

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My 6 year old ❤

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The little sandy beach.

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Another amazing review by a mental health professional, of my website and work :)

Meichell left a message on my facebook page stating she values my work and is a licenced therapist and complex trauma survivor…….and then kindly provided this review 🙂

“Dear Lilly, 

I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor, owner of Lighthouse Counseling and Psychotherapy LLC, and a complex trauma survivor.

Your website and Facebook page are informative, empathic, and “healing hopeful” while maintaining the authenticity of deep honesty we survivors crave.

I am constantly blessed personally and professionally by your posts and resources.  I share your site with every survivor I work with  as well as  my colleagues which includes a large number of human trafficking victim advocates I help train in my region. Continue reading


Uncomplicated PTSD, cannot be compared to Complex PTSD

As per the National Centre For PTSD and PsychCentral…


Uncomplicated PTSD

Uncomplicated PTSD involves persistent re-experiencing of the traumatic event, avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma, emotional numbing, and symptoms of increased arousal. It may respond to group, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural, pharmacological, or combination approaches.

Comorbid PTSD

PTSD comorbid with other psychiatric disorders is actually much more common than uncomplicated PTSD. PTSD is usually associated with at least one other major psychiatric disorder such as depression, alcohol or substance abuse, panic disorder, and other anxiety disorders. The best results are achieved when both PTSD and the other disorder(s) are treated together rather than one after the other. This is especially true for PTSD and alcohol or substance abuse. The same treatments used for uncomplicated PTSD should be used for these patients, with the addition of carefully managed treatment for the other psychiatric or addiction problems.

Complex PTSD

Complex PTSD (sometimes called “Disorder of Extreme Stress”) is found among individuals who have been exposed to prolonged traumatic circumstances, especially during childhood, such as childhood sexual abuse. These individuals often are diagnosed with borderline or antisocial personality disorder or dissociative disorders. They exhibit behavioural difficulties (such as impulsivity, aggression, sexual acting out, eating disorders, alcohol or drug abuse, and self-destructive actions), extreme emotional difficulties (such as intense rage, depression, or panic) and mental difficulties (such as fragmented thoughts, dissociation, and amnesia). Continue reading


The Mental Health Profession’s agenda of trying to fix and cure everyone.

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I have come to realise that so many within the mental health field are determined they will cure and fix everyone. That is the agenda and it is very tunnel visioned.

They demand everyone can heal and recover in full, based upon their agenda’s and their preconceived idea’s that everyone is the same in the way trauma affects people.

Of course, the majority are going to believe this, as it’s their business, their job and their ego’s can be hurt when their clients don’t recover. But, it’s not about the therapist, it is about the client.


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Sometimes suffering is simply suffering. It doesn’t make everyone stronger, at all.

There is this myth perpetuated that all trauma and suffering ‘makes you stronger’. Actually that is not true.

There are many who don’t become society’s demand of ‘so strong’ and they are they shamed and made to feel like victims/weak as a result, which is so wrong and harmful.

Some people struggle considerably with the suffering and trauma they have endured – for very valid reasons and I support those people in their struggles and show NO judgment for their journey.

Not everyone becomes a ‘recovery success story’ perpetuated by society as being the ‘only’ way we ‘should’ be.

I have greater levels of empathy and compassion than to demand everyone be ‘strong’.
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