I have come to realise ‘forgiveness’ and ‘compassion for abusers’ – is a huge guilt trip many are on. And a huge ‘shaming’ issue many like to project too, particularly toxic religious people.
Shame is the foundation of society and most religious people.
Do I ever need to forgive my mother of the evil she intentionally inflicted, the paedophile’s abuse, the psychopath’s abuse? Or make excuses for them? Or feel sorry for them?
Short answer…. no.
Not in the way many project.
All I have to do is not condemn them, not want retribution, not want revenge etc. That is it. And I’ve always known this. I didn’t need religious people, or a counsellor, or anyone to tell me that. It’s what I’ve always known in my heart is needed. But, I do not have to feel sorry for them, offer compassion about the evil they chose to inflict. Continue reading