I have come to realise just how many disordered and dysfunctional people are admins of pages about narcissistic (etc) abuse. I am not the only page admin who has noted this. Two others I do support, have also stated the same.
I have made the decision, to unlike every page except for 3 I trust… who have proven themselves to be trustworthy and having good motivations, over a long period of time…
After Narcissistic Abuse, There is Light, Life & Love
Self Care Haven/The Smart Girl’s Guide to Self Care
These three are featured on my Website. And I note, they all have great self care and boundaries – as healthy people do. They focus on their own work, and do not associate much with other pages etc, at all. I am, however, blessed – they do all support my work too. As do many mental health professionals. I am blessed with quality support.
I also stick to professionals in the field, experts in personality disorders, as their work is respected, educated, insightful and valuable.
I refuse to get sucked in to any further unhealthy BS on social media, and I refuse to feel responsible for people who are being lied to, groomed and duped by unhealthy people. They are not my responsibility. They are their own. My issues of ‘over responsibility’ for others, is something I was burdened with as a child, by my abusive mother.
And I accept only ‘I’ can change this and change this, I must.
I have been sucked into unhealthy, disordered people’s lives, lies and BS all my life and the only way to stop this, is to stop participating in it.
Healthy boundaries are something needed, vital and are an act of self compassion and self respect.
I am also spending less time on social media and that helps. Instead of my previous ‘all or nothing’ patterns of behaviour of spending too much time every day on social media, or withdrawing completely when overwhelmed …. I am limiting and restricting time I spend on social media…….. as social media is awash with BS.
In restricting my time on social media, I implement better self care, self respect, self esteem and self compassion.
And my life becomes healthier, as a result.