These ‘demands’ religiously toxic and abusive people project, are BS.
This goes on a lot and I see this becomes a way for abusers to minimize the abuse, and project these demands onto others, including their victims….. which is not what is wise, healthy or appropriate.
They just play the ‘grace/forgiveness’ card and lord that over people.
They demand forgiveness, often without deserving it, without being honest about what they have done, without repentance. And without any regard as to the victims needs and the depth of suffering and harm caused.
They have NO right to demand forgiveness, grace. But, toxic, disordered, unwise people… use these demands well and for their own needs. It is never about the victims needs.
It’s so easy to abuse someone and then just say ‘God has forgiven me – so should you’.
Anyone with true repentance and compassion for their victims, would never demand or expect forgiveness – because they would know this is not ‘their’ choice, or demand to make.
Real repentance, would mean the abuser, knows their victim may require a lifetime for forgiveness, and their healing will take as long as it takes (with no timeframe demanded) and they may need to have no contact – in order for the victims healing – and ‘that’ would be the abusers only concern….. if they had true repentance.