Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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Poem ~ Yes, My Eyes Seem Distant ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Yes, my eyes seem distant

I am no longer present

I have gone away

To my safe place

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A place of love and integrity

Where I smile and laugh freely

Where my soul is nourished

Where I am accepted

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Where I am held

Comforted

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7 Types Of People In This World…. The last line, is crucial.

Exclusive excerpt from The One Idea That Saves the World: A Call to Conscience and A Call to Action by Laurence Overmire.

The House is on Fire.

The people in the house are
Sleeping and in great danger

Seven of their neighbors will come along
Each with an opportunity to save them

Person #1
Does not see the fire
Consumed in his own thoughts
He passes by in ignorant oblivion

Person #2
Sees the fire
But, not wanting to get involved
Walks on by

Person #3
Sees the fire
But, shocked and terrified
Is left immobilized in a state of panic

Person #4
Sees the fire
And immediately takes action
First, phoning the fire department
Then, knocking on the door to
Wake up the inhabitants

Person #5
Sees the fire
And, daring what no one else would
Enters the house to try to
Save the inhabitants

Person #6
Sees the fire
Surveys the scene
And discovers an opportunity
To promote his own interests and
Make a buck
(He’s the one handing out
His business card to sell his stuff)

Person #7
Set the fire
And lurks unnoticed
Watching the destruction
Not caring really
About anything at all.

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The house is Mother Earth.

Which person are you?

This poem encapsulates the central, overriding issue of our time: our world is on fire and on the verge of collapse; what are each of us willing to do about it? How do we galvanize people to do what is necessary and right?

Of course, very few of us are willing to risk our own lives to do good in this world, though we are eternally grateful to those who do. But let’s try, all of us, to do our best to be number 4’s. Let’s help to put out the fire.

Unfortunately, one of the biggest problems at this particular point in time is that there are too few people who are working hard to douse the flames. Most people are 1’s, 2’s or 3’s.

The 1’s are the people who don’t even see that the house is on fire. They don’t really understand that there is a problem. They live in ignorance of the situation, consumed with the trials of everyday living. We must wake them up, educate them and ask them politely to help us put out the fire. After all, most of them are decent people. They are your friends and neighbors.

The 2’s are perhaps the most frustrating. There are an awful lot of them out there. Most we would consider good people, but good people don’t always do the right thing. They know that the world is on fire, but they refuse to help in any way to put it out. They just don’t want to make the effort.

Are they lazy? Some perhaps. Apathetic? Yes, some are just too comfortable and want to live their lives in a self-centered kind of way without bothering about the larger community. Some are just too jaded and cynical, believing that there is nothing they can do that will make any difference. Their negative outlooks defeat them before they even make an attempt to rise to the challenge.

These are never the people we look up to. They are not the people who inspire, the people who win our respect. Throughout history, they have won plenty of shame, but no acclaim. These are the people to whom we must say, ultimately, “If you can’t lend a hand, please get out of the way.”

The 3’s are good people, too. They understand the world is in trouble. They have some knowledge of what is happening. Some know too much, perhaps, and are paralyzed with fear, not knowing what to do. Some just don’t have the psychological or emotional fortitude to cope with the enormity of the issues, so they avoid thinking about them or dealing with them in any way. We must help them to overcome their fears and persuade them to join us, as much as they are able, to help save the world.

The 4’s and 5’s, of course, are the people who conscientiously give of themselves to help others. We need more people like this. This book, hopefully, will convince you to become one (if you’re not one already).

The 6’s and 7’s, on the other hand, are the people who are really causing problems for those of us who are working to put out the fire. Continue reading


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Another example of self care/boundaries ~ remove/avoid, what is harmful & not needed in our lives.

A post to my page, which was written with the intention of helping others to realise they need to focus on self care and boundaries too…… and not participate in things that cause themselves harm. Because I want the best for people.


Self care …. boundaries…. are a hard battle for many of us, and avoiding triggers, is something I know we need.

For these reasons, I have decided I need to unlike pages, that post about cases in the media of people who abuse – paedophiles, sex offenders, rapists etc.

Not because I don’t think the pages do needed work, but because the constant triggers and exposing myself to seeing and reading about abusers, is not helpful for me, or my wellbeing. And that is good self care and healthy boundaries to know this.

It doesn’t help for me to be exposed regularly, daily, to reminders of how many abusive people are out there, and what they do. It brings unpleasant emotions, thoughts, and memories…. so the question is… why would I keep participating in this, by exposing myself to it? I don’t ‘need’ to, at all. Continue reading