A post to my page, which was written with the intention of helping others to realise they need to focus on self care and boundaries too…… and not participate in things that cause themselves harm. Because I want the best for people.
Self care …. boundaries…. are a hard battle for many of us, and avoiding triggers, is something I know we need.
For these reasons, I have decided I need to unlike pages, that post about cases in the media of people who abuse – paedophiles, sex offenders, rapists etc.
Not because I don’t think the pages do needed work, but because the constant triggers and exposing myself to seeing and reading about abusers, is not helpful for me, or my wellbeing. And that is good self care and healthy boundaries to know this.
It doesn’t help for me to be exposed regularly, daily, to reminders of how many abusive people are out there, and what they do. It brings unpleasant emotions, thoughts, and memories…. so the question is… why would I keep participating in this, by exposing myself to it? I don’t ‘need’ to, at all.
In order to move towards a life of less pain, less triggers, less horrible stuff…… we need to be continually assessing our needs and self care.
It is my hope everyone knows they need good self care and healthy boundaries – because we deserve this.
I can see that seeing these posts on pages about abusers, doesn’t help me.
I also see others getting angry and I see how they are participating in the continual re-traumatising of themselves. They often don’t realise this… as I haven’t in the past…. but I do see it very clearly now.
Avoiding many things, particularly on the internet…. is very necessary for improving quality of life.
It is an act of self compassion, self worth and self care.