Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

A very courageous patient, who has experienced significant trauma. Validation still feels weird. Odd. Strange.


My doctor/counsellor copied me into a letter this week, sent to a hydro/physiotherapist. I needed to be referred regarding all these added physical illness issues I am experiencing.

The first line in the letter “(My name) is a very courageous patient attending our rooms with significant trauma in her past, and working through the issues surrounding this”.

That was pretty validating to read in both who I am as a person – ‘very courageous’ … and what I have experienced – ‘significant trauma’. And I realise the courage required to be ‘working through it’.

Despite the fact that I know this for myself…. it still impacts me when I see validation. No doubt because I have received so little from people in my life. From people who matter.

I don’t actually need validation from others anymore. I validate myself. That is progress. But, when I receive it, it still strikes me as odd. Unfamiliar. Strange.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “A very courageous patient, who has experienced significant trauma. Validation still feels weird. Odd. Strange.

  1. It’s powerful to see the validation in writing from someone in authority.

  2. Positive affect can be very hard to take when never experienced a lot of it

    • Yes, you are right. It is hard for positive things about yourself to sink in, or for any length of time.
      Often people say nice stuff to me, and it has no effect, I dismiss it.
      Or if I do take it in, it doesn’t last.
      It’s one of those ‘I understand it intellectually, but it has not yet reached my heart/soul’ issues.
      I guess decades of being told in many ways I am worthless, from childhood onwards, takes a long time to change.
      I know for many of us, this can be something we deal with ❤ xox