Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

My post to my page today, about what I always try to keep in mind when writing…


I don’t base my work, on those who have the ‘best case scenario’ – which is having moderately impacting symptoms/trauma, quality therapy and good support and a loving family.


Because that is not the reality for many. Many don’t have access to quality therapy. Many don’t have people in their lives who understand and are supportive. Many don’t have family who care.

I base my work, on the most challenging situations, the ones where most suffering is occurring. Because, I have empathy and compassion for people enduring such hardship and doing it alone.

I don’t base my work on my own situation, because I know there are people out there suffering more than I am, and my heart hurts for those people.

Sadly, many don’t view it this way and hurt people in the process.

Mental health policy, mental health advocacy, helping people who have experienced trauma, should be based on what can be the worst situations, so those people suffering that much, feel compassion, feel they are cared for, they are understood, feel empathy from others.

And that is what I aim for.

This has all had a good response from those who need this gentle and compassionate focus.

Responses to this included…

What a wonderful and well thought statement, dear Lilly! Warmest regards from Tussila =) “

“Thank you, Lilly 

“That’s beautiful Lilly, There would be less of this illness if everyone was like you. Recovery would be so much easier. Thank you for your words, Thank you for your page.”

“Amen. You can’t fit everyone in a neat box. Everyone has different circumstances and challenges. There’s no use in only targeting a select majority, because you’re leaving a minority out in the cold. Very well said.”

“Inspirational and a blessing among many…. that’s our sweet Lilly <3”

“Thank you and God Bless”

“Bless you lily. Amen x “”

“You are an angel”

“Thank you Lily in all that you do. Your posts have helped me in so many ways I can’t begin to thank you enough. You said this so beautifully. … very well said.. ❤ “

“You are my only support whatsoever~ So thank you! 

“You help so many people. I know that you have helped me and most importantly you don’t just listen you hear.
Thank you so much Lilly”

“And it shows and it does make a difference. Thank you x”

“What a blessing you are to our world!”

“I appreciate what you do, I have learned a lot from you. There have been moments in my life where , I wanted to leave this world, you are one of three reasons I’m still here. The other two are my children.”

“These r fantastic guidelines. Ur such a great advocate! Bless you baby girl. N thankyou so much”

“And your life / your writing/ your guidance Lilly is a Blessing !!!! Love and prayers dear dear heart!”


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “My post to my page today, about what I always try to keep in mind when writing…

  1. Frankly, since I have been Out of the Fog- I am experiencing incredible anger, and rage. When I was in a fog. 3/4 of my life I was clueless. Now, I have connected the dots and figured out my own symptoms and the cause of them. I can pinpoint my feeling at a given moment and connect that feeling to my childhood. it is a roller coaster ride every day. My sister , the witch, the a 100 percent NARC., is a evil as they come. Once I realized her gaslighting techniques, and Lies, I realized I was not crazy She prances thru her church like Church Lady on Saturday night live and is a Total Hipocrite.

  2. It took me 100 years to realize when someone says something hurtful to you , it says something about THEM> One day I was sitting w/ my narc witch sister. I asked her if she knew I had a miscarriage years ago. she Laughed and said”Oh I thought you had an abortion”! with a smile on her face.

  3. Lilly, I just want to express my gratitude to you from the bottom most of my heart. I came across your website yesterday and not until then I didn’t realize I was a serious victim of CPTSD, and finally I know that I AM NOT ALONE. Thank you so much for all the insights and suggestions and of course all the caring words and supporting statements. Through your words I feel like being understood, cared and loved.

    I was married half year ago while my husband is fully aware of my CPTSD behaviors. He tried his very best and put every effort and gave me his full patience, but anyhow he is not a professional, he too gets very upset, frustrated and exhausted when I am being unaware of my emotional flashbacks, and he would yell at me or even threaten me of going to a divorce. He was pushing my buttons so hard, but while the buttons are in my heart so he would not compromise to let me continue with CPTSD behaviors, but rather to let me realize the buttons actually never existed. I was and going 1 step forward and 1 step backward towards and making no progress towards the goal of healing in 1 and a half year, and I blamed myself severely for not treasuring such a loving husband without getting any sensible reason. But now after reading the website, I understand this is the perused consequence of the prolonged childhood trauma that I have met, a subconscious sense of distrust and insecurity is hiding somewhere in my heart, and led me to a Flight mode.

    Thank you Lilly, I will check your blog and site regularly. I wish I could get out of the nightmares very soon, and share my happiness with you in the recent future. My best regards to you and your family.

    • I am so thankful my posts, blog and website help you.
      I am so sorry you have endured so much trauma and it has impacted you life, as it so often does for many of us.
      The fear of trust and the insecurities, are normal for those of us so badly abused in childhood and it is so understandable why we would not trust, why we fear trust etc.
      It is my aim to bring as much empathy and understanding to others who have endured so much suffering already.
      Much love and support,
      Lilly ❤ ❤