Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It’s Not Always Depression, Sometimes It’s Shame ~ By Hilary Jacobs Hendel

I really appreciate this article, that tackles the shame we often feel, caused by child abuse, sexual abuse etc. Often people don’t realise it is shame. I know I have dealt with a lifetime of shame and I still am.

Which is why I now advocate against victim blaming/shaming and blame shifting etc. We have already suffered enough.



The psychologist who ‘shamed’ me & rejected my view on mental health policy shaming people, has apologised.

I am always shocked by apologies, especially when they seem genuine. Having not received many apologies in my life, and always being able to detect the non genuine, non remorseful apologies, it comes as a surprise to me, when more genuine apologies are offered.

It actually helps, when I do receive genuine apologies, because it raises my belief in humanity.

The psychologist, who disagreed with my view about mental health policy ‘shaming’ those most impacted, most suffering, most vulnerable, has emailed me and apologised and is considering my view further, and I am grateful for that.

He is a very educated man and has worked with the APA etc and is very ‘high up’ in the mental health world in the US.

I will ponder some more about this apology and my response. My capacity to not immediately respond, react, and to sit back and think, digest, consider, ponder, is such proof of my continued healing. Continue reading