Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Standing up for yourself, will make your life worse. The message throughout my life.

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Since young childhood onwards, this has been the message I have had. If you stand up for yourself against wrongdoing, against abuse… your life will be made worse.

Even when people are exposed for being liars and evidence is provided, they turn themselves into the victim.

This plays out all the time. As is currently being seen in the Belle Gibson fake cancer situation. She knew in 2011 she did not have cancer, yet continued to lie, target vulnerable people, take their money, gain fame. Then when exposed, she claims to be the victim. Absolute narcissism/sociopathy. People standing up to her, are then called bullies. How dare anyone expose the truth and stand up for her victims, attitude. How dare anyone be upset and annoyed with her, attitude. Victims should be silent, attitude.  Lets shift the blame and shame from her, onto others. Lets make excuses for her.

Psychopathic, sociopathic, narcissistic people rule the world. They ensure that and their enablers and sympathisers, ensure that.

I’ve dealt with this all my life. My family would not allow the truth to be exposed, so engaged in a whole range of silencing, projecting, blame/shame shifting’, abusive strategies, to keep the truth from becoming known.

The paedophile blamed me for what he was doing. The sadistic psychopath, acted the victim in court. He was found guilty and in prison anyway. But it was all over the local news, as to his lies about me. There have been many situations since, where wrong/abuse has been done, and the blame and shame shifted from them, to me.

Every time I have attempted to stand up for myself, rightly so, I have been attacked, abused and harmed by not only the perpetrator of the abuse, but their enablers and supporters. And it continues, only now through social media.

I’ve had enough of it. People will often prefer lies and liars, to genuine people.

That’s sinful humanity for you. I need  to stay away from them all. I cannot control others, so I have no choice but stay away from them.. It’s like dealing with a whole pile of teenagers in school. These people have never grown up emotionally, never progressed past that adolescent stage of emotional development. They don’t have the integrity or the courage to be an adult.

They are incredibly immature and willing to be bullies, like teenagers.

And the fact remains, you cannot reason with this level of disordered immaturity.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Standing up for yourself, will make your life worse. The message throughout my life.

  1. I have Finally accepted the fact- there will never be any Validation. So I avoid my sister, she has done so much damage to me. The Longer I STAY AWAY, the saner I Become !! It has only been this last year that I have been able to stay away. The research I did on triggers, etc helped. immensely. Also, “recreating the past” Everytime I would go to her home I was (subconsciously) recreating the past. I did not realize I was doing this. Why on earth would I continue to go back to a home where I was Rejected, Abandonned,Turned Away ?.? Trying to recreate to past. See you can teach an old dog new tricks. Just takes 100 years.