Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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I will live in the truth of my life.

I intend remaining in the truth of my life. I have no choice, I am unable to live any other way. Once your eyes are opened and the truth is revealed, there is no going back.

I know what was done to me in the past. I know the intentionality of the abuse, by the abusers. I know they knew it was wrong and did it anyway.

I will not allow anyone to erode that truth.

I will not allow anyone to force their opinions about how I ‘should’ feel about these abusers, or any abusers.

I will not allow anyone try to make me feel I am not good enough, for thinking and feeling the way I do.

I will not allow anyone to shame me with their opinions.

I will not allow anyone minimize what I have endured.

I will not allow anyone to minimize all the emotions I have, rightfully so, after all I have endured.

I will not allow anyone to invalidate my suffering, pain and grieving.

At the same time, I will not allow this truth and these emotions to stop me living my life and finding joy and increasing peace, I am striving for.

I will and do validate all the good, all the joyful, all the wonderful in my life and know this exists and I value, embrace and live for this.

I will live in my truth that life is and can be horrendous and wonderful, all at the same time. Continue reading


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I’m tired. Tired of it all.

I’m so tired.

I’m tired of my life.

I’m tired of this battle.

I’m tired of hurting emotionally.

I’m tired of grieving.

I’m tired of hurting physically.

I’m tired of my past.

I’m tired of my present.

I’m tired of people.

I’m tired of opinions.

I’m tired of agenda’s.

I’m tired of people who only think of themselves.

I’m tired of not being good enough.

I’m tired of being used.

I’m tired of dealing with people’s issues.

I’m tired of people’s dishonesty.

I’m tired of explaining myself to people. Continue reading


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Quit counselling.

Lots of reasons…. I shouldn’t have to ask my counsellor to validate that all the child abuse wasn’t my fault, blame, shame. That was her job to offer that support. I shouldn’t have to be subjected to continual shaming, because her views about abusers are different to mine.

I shouldn’t be made to feel worse about myself, as a result of all this.

A counsellors job is to provide safety for a complex trauma survivor to deal with ‘their’ journey. Not project opinions that hurt and shame.

I’ve already been through enough.


Paedophiles & Child Sex Offenders could face life in prison in NSW Australia …. good. I agree with this.

Read more at http://www.mamamia.com.au/news/paedophiles-maximum-penalty/#HMdBXizeaZfUmxMu.99

Child sex offenders in NSW face life imprisonment under tougher new laws.

Previously, the maximum sentence for sexual intercourse with a child under 10 was 25 years — but last night, NSW Parliament passed legislation increasing the maximum sentence to life.

The move honours a NSW government election promise.

“These are the worst crimes against the most vulnerable in our community, our children, our young people and too often sentences handed down don’t align with community expectation,” NSW Attorney-General Gabrielle Upton said earlier this year of the amendment.

AAP reports other child sex offences have also been included in the Standard Non-Parole Period scheme, which provides judiciary guidance with sentencing.

“(I)t sends a very clear message that the sentences that should guide judges when they are making decisions, are longer sentences,” Upton told ABC News.

“That’s responding to community expectation, that people who violate children, our most vulnerable members of our community should be punished and punished harshly.”

The President of Adults Suriviving Child Abuse welcomes the news laws.

“For too long the crime of child sexual abuse has been minimised, both in public perception and in criminal justice responses,” Dr Cathy Kezelman told Mamamia.

“Custodial sentences for convicted sex offenders need to reflect the seriousness of the crime and the harm it reaps on victims, their families and our communities. Many victims have a life sentence, especially when they are unable to access and afford the help they need to recover, as sadly is often the case.” Continue reading


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Should non-professionals be writing books about trauma, they are not qualified to write?

This is an interesting article and it is something I have noticed, there are authors who should not in fact be writing books about severe psychiatric disorders, as they are not qualified to write about them…

http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/dissociativeliving/2011/03/why-the-courage-to-heal-isnt-on-my-recommended-reading-list/

A comment that stood out as well was “Laura Davis and Ellen Bass were enjoying life and living comfortably on the profits from this book. It has been well documented that neither author has any qualifications or certifications in any area of therapy.”

I am aware of several authors who’s books I definitely don’t recommend, as they give messages I know are not insightful and not representative of all survivors, and actually have unhealthy messages within them.

Should we be in fact…. leaving books to the professionals?

Not that they get it right all the time either. But, non professionals can get it wrong, even more.