Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Interestingly, the worst bullying and harassment I have had on social media, has been from ex military.


Firstly, I will state that many ex military are wonderful people. In no way, am I generalising all ex military, or current military as the same.

The worst bullying and harassment on social media, has been from ex military. And I see why. The military attracts and develops some people into beings with little conscience, little empathy and an ability to destroy people – with no remorse, with the ‘reason’ of protecting their country. It gives them the belief that this psychopathic behaviour, is okay. The military develop and grow people into fighting machines, with pack mentality, where retaliation and revenge are part of the job. They are taught/forced to suppress all emotions, all sense of conscience, all sense of remorse. All the hallmarks of highly disordered/unhealthy people. And the better the psychopath they become, the more they are hailed as being a military success.

I’ve read so many articles on the internet about how the military has higher than average levels of narcissists /sociopaths/ psychopaths and it’s easy to see why. And how many will be further up that continuum than average.

Plus you only have to read the appalling statistics on sexual violence perpetrated within the military, to see what goes on even within their own comrades. Quote “Last year, soldiers were 15 times more likely to be raped by a comrade then killed by an enemy.” http://mic.com/articles/72503/pentagon-releases-startling-new-statistics-on-military-sexual-assault. Again behaviour by people with no empathy, no conscience, no remorse. And willing to harm others, easily. More facts about sexual violence/abuse perpetuated by military @ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/military-sexual-assault-facts_b_4281704.html.

And even the ‘fight’ trauma response in itself, is narcissistic. See http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/#!about1/c2bg

I think the military destroys many people.

My husband works with a few fellow cops, who were ex military and they have confirmed how higher levels of violence, bullying, and nasty behaviour does go on, how many have a ‘chip on their shoulder’ and they have seen this for themselves. How they treat their families badly and feel so entitled in their actions.

It makes sense to me how this occurs, when you consider the type of training and combat training they endure. And the psychological implications of this.

Military people don’t stop being military when they leave the forces. Their brains become wired the way they need to be, for combat.

So, having received the most amount of bullying, abuse, lies, retaliation etc issues, from ex military, who claim to have PTSD, I have thought a lot about why.

On one level I feel sorry for these people, because the anger and darkness they have within them, and their need to be so destructive to people who stand up to them….. is really sad.

I also hold the understanding, that they still choose to do what they do…. and they lack the qualities needed to be a decent human being… empathy, conscience, remorse, integrity, honesty. They choose to take and do what they want – no matter how horrible, and no-one is allowed to say differently, or watch out. The PTSD also becomes a great excuse for nasty behaviour. Which is also why high levels of domestic violence occur within military and ex-military families.

These ex military bully boys, are simply bullies, with big immature ego’s and no emotional maturity. And deep anger and darkness within. And it certainly shows in some of their online cyber bullying, nasty, egotistic, no remorse, no conscience, completely ‘entitled’… behaviour.

Again, I emphasise, this is not a generalisation of all military, or all ex military. Many are lovely, nice people that do not have these issues, at all.

But, I see clearly the opposite in some of them and how the military destroys lives, destroys character, destroys personalities, in many ways.

It is also interesting to read all the many articles on how ex military have raised anger issues. This is one such recent article http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/05/150513111859.htm

This post received good feedback on Twitter and was shared within an online newspaper by a psychotherapist. Along with two other posts.

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “Interestingly, the worst bullying and harassment I have had on social media, has been from ex military.

  1. Hi Lilly, this is a very interesting article and I must admit that I didn’t really think about this in such depth, but it makes perfect sense. ❤

    • I’m glad it was interesting to read. I think deeply about most things that I see in life that are about human behaviour.

      I always look to the reasons for why humanity acts the way it does. I also look at how there are reasons for behaviours, but whether they are a valid excuse, or not.

      In this situation, military training is a reason. But, still not an excuse for them trying to destroy other people and incite others to join in (pack mentality) – just because someone has stood up to them when they are in the wrong.

  2. I have found they actually have the ability to choose. Its the “us vs them” mentality. They can be nice and offer lots of support to people if they consider people to be “allies”, people they like, but if you considered to be an enemy, one of “them”, then its all out destruction. In many ways its similar to abuse from a narcissist, the way they tear you down and use others as proxies. Some of my experiences with these types of people have left scars that will be lifelong…….and, I suspect they know it too.

    • I see you have the same insight into their minds/behaviour that I do.
      Yes, they can appear nice & supportive, but really that is self serving, to boost their ego too.
      Once they consider you an enemy – it’s all out war and destruction and they are relentless/truthless in their pursuit and viciousness, lies and inciting people to be their ‘flying monkeys’.
      Very narcissistic, very psychopathic. Psychopaths can choose when to be nasty and when to switch off any form of empathy.
      I am so sorry you have had experiences with these people too.
      They are very harmful and traumatising in their abuse.