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When you know you are making the right life path choices. Great article I relate to.

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I have gained great insight into ‘Old Souls’ from Loner Wolf and have blogged about their writings before. I relate to much of their insight. It is helpful for me to be reminded by those with similar insight and souls, of the path we choose to take. Not for any other reason than we know we must, we have matured past the shallow focusses of our immature, materialistic, image, success, ego driven society.

From the above link…

What Does a Truly Satisfying Life Path Look Like?

Have you ever stopped to consider what an authentically satisfying life path looks like to you? Perhaps it has to do with career advancement, marital success, riches, fame, or perhaps even enlightenment. Before you can really answer the question “How do I know that I’m pursuing the right life path?” you must be able to envision what your ideal life path would look like.

Perhaps you will be a passionate writer who immigrates to Thailand and lives off the internet? Perhaps you will be a well-known and highly respected psychologist who gets to holiday twice a year? Perhaps you will be a happy housewife that lives by the ocean making soap to sell on the side? Perhaps you will live off the grid and be self-sustained and free to do whatever you desire?

Once you have envisioned your ideal life ask yourself, “Will I always find this path satisfying or fulfilling?” Inevitably you will find the answer is realistically, “I don’t know!” or “Maybe,” but the truth is that you can’t predict how you will feel, what you will think, or what you will desire in the future. While one particular path might appeal to you today, this year or this decade, in the future you might have changed your mind many times.

So then, if you can’t really predict whether you will always be satisfied by One Particular Path, you must realize that such an ideal is unrealistic. By embracing the impermanence and unpredictability of life we allow ourselves to be free from the pain of expectations, desires and attachments. Therefore, don’t fall for the misconception that there is only “One” life path. In fact, there are many, and this realization should take a lot of weight off your shoulders.

How to Tell Whether You’re Wasting Your Life or Not

Subjectively life can be wasted in a number of different ways, namely through:

  • Addictions (drugs, alcohol, food, sex, gambling, etc.).
  • Enslavement to money/status/material gain.
  • Misplaced loyalty (e.g. to dead-end jobs, dishonest/abusive partners).
  • Action without feeling, also known as dutiful living (to family, partners, corporations, nations, etc.).
  • Doing what everyone else says or what is socially “acceptable,” but not doing what you authentically want.
  • Pleasing everyone else but yourself.

Objectively however, life can’t be wasted because life simply IS with or without you. At your core you are Life, and Life is you. Your body, personality, thoughts, feelings, actions, accomplishments, failures, memories, desires and wants all come and go, change and evolve, but in the end the essence of you is unchanging and ceaseless: it can’t be “wasted” just as much as it can’t be “fulfilled” because it is already whole and complete.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “When you know you are making the right life path choices. Great article I relate to.

  1. Hi Lilly,
    Thank you for posting this. It really is true and very wise advice. Peace be with you.