Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I choose to speak up for the innocent & the ones who do deserve the compassion.


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I choose to speak up for the innocent, those who did not have a ‘choice’ about being abused, those who had their childhood’s stolen in the worst ways possible.

It is ethics and social justice to speak up for the innocent.

If we don’t speak up for our vulnerable children, we don’t stand for much.

Offenders had choices. They made choices to hurt and harm children, and they could have chosen not to. Most of them never have any remorse, and many do it repeatedly, because they lack any conscience, empathy or remorse.

And those who defend them, make excuses for them, rationalise what they do, enable them, justify what they do, are as guilty as the offenders themselves.

We live in a victim blaming/shaming society. In an offender protecting/enabling society. A sick society.

No-one ever deserves to be abused. No-one ever deserves to be sexually abused. Especially children.

Society needs to stop defending people who choose to harm others, and start making them far more responsible for their actions, have far more appropriate jail time, and start supporting the victims.

And no matter what these offenders, paedophiles, sociopaths, psychopaths etc have had happened to them in their lives, it NEVER justifies sexually abusing anyone, especially a child. And anyone who claims it does, is as disordered and psychologically messed up as the offenders.

The victims of abuse, particularly sexual abuse, and child sexual abuse NEVER deserved what happened to them. Their bodies are violated in the worst possible way, and they live with those memories and all the profound consequences all their lives.

All the victims/survivors, who don’t choose to hurt others, but live with these terrible trauma, are the ones who deserve the compassion, the empathy, the support, the care.

Yet, many are shamed, vilified, invalidated and ignored, by society. Many are told they are the ones who are ‘bad’ for having appropriate emotions, or for not ‘forgiving’ the way others un-empathically and wrongly demand, or are re-traumatised by the lack of empathy in many. Re-traumatised by the abuse being minimized and rationalised by others with their own selfish agenda’s, and those who don’t wish to deal with truth and reality.

I stand with the victims and will continue to be a voice for the millions of innocent victims of child sexual abuse.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “I choose to speak up for the innocent & the ones who do deserve the compassion.

  1. Thank you so much for writing this. And from me thank you for writing victim, yes we survived but umm the life we live now because we were a victim is horrendous. I still blame myself. ffs. I wouldn’t a little child rationally but internally it’s easier. Have a good day today. X

  2. love the Einstein quote

  3. Awesome & empowering post!!
    Made me cry.
    Thank you for being a voice for the voiceless.