Having severe, prolonged and repeated abuse/trauma endured – minimized and invalidated by others, is something I have endured all my life.
People who generalise trauma as the same, or minimize child sexual abuse, or compare trauma endured as an adult – to trauma endured as a child etc… simply do not know what they are talking about. They often have selfish and self serving reasons to do this and willingly shame people in the process.
‘Generalising’ and ‘minimizing’ are cognitive distortions I see are familiar within abuse/mental health industry and advocacy field. They shame, re-traumatise and invalidate those who have suffered to greater levels.
There is a very true saying “Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one, and most are full of shit”. So true.
Most opinions are lacking in education, lacking in knowledge, lacking in empathy, lacking in insight.
I don’t tolerate this anymore.
I have better boundaries and self care now, and refuse to allow this invalidation and shaming that goes on far too much.