I don’t have all the answers, or the capacity to know what to say to every person who is suffering.
I worry and stress that I may say the wrong thing, to those who are filled with hopelessness and in so much pain.
I never want to invalidate or minimize anyone’s pain. I know that is dangerous and pushes people over the edge.
I also don’t want to tell anyone it is hopeless, because I don’t want anyone to give up completely, as that is dangerous too.
I know through all the hurt, invalidation, minimization and shaming I have endured, not to do this to others. It is beyond painful and has nearly killed me.
I simply don’t know what to say to some people.
I really stress and worry that what I say will not be what they need to hear. Not be what they are emotionally and psychologically capable of hearing.
I also know, it is not my job to be someone who knows what to say to every person. That would be an unrealistic expectation of myself, or of others – to expect me to have all the right words. Continue reading