I don’t have all the answers, or the capacity to know what to say to every person who is suffering.
I worry and stress that I may say the wrong thing, to those who are filled with hopelessness and in so much pain.
I never want to invalidate or minimize anyone’s pain. I know that is dangerous and pushes people over the edge.
I also don’t want to tell anyone it is hopeless, because I don’t want anyone to give up completely, as that is dangerous too.
I know through all the hurt, invalidation, minimization and shaming I have endured, not to do this to others. It is beyond painful and has nearly killed me.
I simply don’t know what to say to some people.
I really stress and worry that what I say will not be what they need to hear. Not be what they are emotionally and psychologically capable of hearing.
I also know, it is not my job to be someone who knows what to say to every person. That would be an unrealistic expectation of myself, or of others – to expect me to have all the right words.
And I don’t want to be someone who pretends/deludes self, into thinking I know it all, or have all the answers, as that is dangerous too.
I’m aware, many people need to stop thinking they can give advice to people when they do not have the capacity, empathy or insight to give appropriate advice. I apply that to myself in certain situations too.