The terms ‘get over it’ and ‘move on’ etc are highly inappropriate, lacking in trauma knowledge, and re-traumatising. And this applies to a lot of trauma, but far more so for children who experience abuse, child abuse, child sexual abuse, domestic violence, etc.
The child’s brain is not fully formed, and the continual fear and trauma, programs a child’s brain for fear and this does not stop once the child becomes an adult.
If the child does not receive support, counselling etc, this will worsen the child’s prognosis for any recovery.
The child also does not have the same capacity to cope with trauma, as an adult. And cannot seek help the same way an adult can, especially when growing in toxic home.
This will impact any recovery in adulthood, especially if the prolonged child trauma survivor, does not seek help until decades later. Often suppressing the trauma, until later in life. As I did, and then having a breakdown.
I am glad to see greater research and understanding of this continually within the trauma/abuse field.
I am also aware for those who are able to access quality trauma focussed therapy, the hope for a lifelong journey of recovery is increased.
However, it is not as simple as just ‘getting help’ as many would like to suggest. Finding and having access to quality trauma focussed therapy, is not the reality for many. Not when highly inadequate mental health policies/systems are in place and finances prevent being able to afford the therapy needed.