Dysfunctional, toxic families/parents etc, often cause further abuse and trauma to children who disclose child sexual abuse. The abuse is often denied, minimized, ignored, trivialised, justified, the child blamed and shamed, and in some cases the sexual abuse is encouraged and enabled.
Child sexual abuse is also emotional, physical, psychological abuse, and when the child is not supported after disclosure, this further abuse is severe neglect and emotional abuse.
The layers of trauma, wounds, shame and neglect within all of this, are profoundly life impacting.
Often survivors of this deep trauma, particularly when it is prolonged child sexual abuse and grooming occurs, need to dissociate to cope/survive. Many mental health and physical health consequences occur from this continual severe fear, anxiety and hypervigilance and severe abuse and violation to the child’s body occurring.
When the child is left unsupported, blamed, shamed etc when disclosing, the trauma intensifies.
The child’s world is shattered.
The child’s sense of any safety, is shattered.
The child’s sense of the world being good, is shattered.
The child’s sense of trust in people, is shattered.
The child’s sense of self and identity, is shattered.
The child’s sense of attachment and connection to people, is shattered.
And so much more. This does not end when the child, becomes an adult. It continues.
Many children and adult survivors, end their lives due to child sexual abuse and being raised in toxic, disordered families. Suicide due to childhood sexual abuse, is more common than is realised.
For those who continue surviving – the severely neglected child sexual (plus emotional/physical/psychological) abuse survivor – further shaming and blaming, minimizing and invalidating by others, continues to deepen the core wounds and the adult survivor’s lack of self worth and self esteem.
I see and know clearly how desperately painful all this is.
It breaks my heart for every survivor who has endured all this.