Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I went to counselling, stood up for myself & expressed what I know, see & feel.


I was unsure whether to attend counselling any further. As I have written in previous blogs. But, I went, expressed what I think, feel and know, particularly with regards to shame. It was all validated as correct, appropriate and an apology offered.

I am still processing the whole conversation, which often takes me days, as I think and digest it fully.

I am glad to have been validated about ‘shame shifting’ and how wrong it is, and the shame of abuse is entirely the abusers. And victims of abuse should not be shamed further.

I am glad it was validated – not only as okay to learn about personality disorders, psychopaths, paedophiles, pathological/disordered behaviours etc……… but told of the courage it requires to take this path.

I am glad it was received okay that I will not tolerate any shaming and validated that my level of compassion/thought processing about abusers is very appropriate and healthy.

I am glad it was validated how my thought processing is deeper than average,which makes me an unusual person and why.

Lots more, but I have a huge headache, which often occurs when I have so much going on in my head to process.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “I went to counselling, stood up for myself & expressed what I know, see & feel.

  1. Dear Lilly, I am so proud of you!! I know how very difficult it was for you to see your counselor and stand up for yourself and what you believe in. And to have her validate and offer an apology, well that is awesome! I hope she has a new and fuller awareness which will hopefully make her a better counselor for you and others.
    I had to do the same thing with my psychoanalyst. But before I talked to her I had to talk it out with my psychiatrist and he supported my decision. I too have delayed reactions. I can relate so much. You certainly a courageous and very intelligent person! Peace be with you Lilly.

  2. Lilly, really admire you for doing this!! Very empowering & encouraging. Gives me courage to do the same!!

  3. Thank you Sue & Jules ❤ ❤

    I nearly didn't go, but I am glad I did. I wasn't defensive, I just stated what I needed to say and why. I'm definitely better at expressing myself without being emotional, which is progress for me.

    I think it is needed for us to stand up for ourselves appropriately. It is part of healing.

  4. That’s awesome that you did that for you. Glad you got to get it all out and be validated. X

  5. Thank you Luverely, I am glad I went & stood up for myself and expressed my insight ❤