Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

People’s subconscious drives/motivations, I see, as much as the conscious, planned behaviours.


I see very clearly how so many people act and behave from the unconscious/subconscious mind… whichever you wish to see it as. I know the psychology great minds such as Freud and Jung, talk about these non conscious thoughts, reactions, drives and I agree… I see it everywhere. I’ve explored some of mine, so I know it to be true. I’ve delved into my sub/unconscious thoughts and where they came from. What triggers my sub/unconscious reactions/behaviours etc.

I’m a great believer in making the ‘unconscious – conscious’ …. if you truly want to know who you are.

This does not happen with many people. Most people keep their eyes very tightly shut about who they actually are as a person. Their own soul is not what they want to see, or reflect upon.

People often don’t even realise why they think and behave the way they do. And I admit that scares me, creates fear within me, and does nothing to lesson my issues with trust. When people don’t even know why they think the way they do… why on earth would I place any trust/belief in them.

I also see clearly when actions and behaviour are conscious, premeditated, deliberate and intentional. But when it’s harmful or self serving, people justify it. Rationalise their behaviours and just plain old excuse them. Providing self comforting irrational thoughts to not take responsibility for actions. And they project them onto others. And vigorously defend them.

I see cognitive distortions everywhere and I always have… now I can put psychology terms to the irrational thinking.

So many people have so little self insight as to understanding why they think the way they do. Where their thoughts may derive from? What really makes them tick? And they put labels to this like ‘compassion’, ‘advice’, ‘my opinion’ etc… when really they don’t even know why they are thinking the way they do. Or how self serving/self comforting /unhealthy/ distorted, their thoughts can be.

They don’t have a capacity to really sit and wonder why they think the way they do. Where do these thoughts and reactions come from? Are they healthy? Are they honest? Are they self deluding? Do they really have any rational basis to them? Are these thoughts cognitively rational, or disordered?

All the great psychology and philosophy minds, go well beyond the usual shallow thought processing level humanity prefers.

It takes a courageous, highly intelligent and insightful person, to go into the unconscious/subconscious – as well as conscious/intentional mind/behaviours of self and of others, beyond the usual shallow cognitive processing level.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “People’s subconscious drives/motivations, I see, as much as the conscious, planned behaviours.

  1. Very well said & totally agree. I to have the problem of not trusting people because I see this in others also. It makes it very difficult to make or keep friends because of their alterative motivates also.

  2. I am surrounded by people that dont self-reflect and that dont want to..I relate to everything you have said..I have forever searched for reasons to my feelings,thoughts, depression..etc and always try and better myself..it also scares me that so many people don’t even bother.

  3. Having discernment into people’s behaviours and motives, when they don’t have self insight, is an interesting place to be.

    I know for many people, looking within with any honesty, is too hard and will be avoided at all cost. It takes courage to look within. It takes a dedication to truth and integrity. Many don’t have that.

    It takes insight and discernment to see past the mask many people present.

    Having boundaries and an understanding that other people’s issues/behaviours are a reflection/projection of themselves, is how I am learning to deal with it.