I’ve read a fair bit about Acceptance & Commitment Therapy – known as ACT, and I know I am in that stage of healing/therapy. This has become especially clear reading ‘The Happiness Trap’ book. The book is based upon ACT therapy and I see as I am reading through it, how I am well and truly in this stage.
I am still grieving. I have accepted my past in it’s full and painful entirety and how I can manage the consequences of it. I know I will grieve for a long time and it will lesson over time.
ACT therapy, as defined in this book, is to achieve 2 main goals.
- Effectively handle painful thoughts and emotions.
- Create a rich, full and meaningful life.
I know my counsellor has stated several times recently, how I am able to discuss my past trauma and the timeline of events etc, in a really coherent way. This is due to my acceptance of my trauma history and having processed it to the point where I can speak about it coherently now and without emotions becoming overwhelming. I am able to more effectively manage painful thoughts, emotions, along with triggers etc.
I am working on creating a meaningful life, as this is important to me. My life is being shaped within the integrity of my core values, my integrity to what I feel is meaningful and removing what is not.
No longer do I feel any need to ‘fit in’ within unhealthy environments/people.
No longer do I tolerate anything that does not sit well with my soul and I do protect my soul, my wellbeing, my heart, my healing. Boundaries and balance are increasing. I increasingly do not allow myself to personalise the issues of others and know I am not responsible for them. I accept (other than guiding my children) I am responsible only for my own mind, behaviours, motivations, reactions etc.
No longer do I care about issues such as image, outer appearance, money, status, material items, fashion etc. I have matured past all that. I accepted the growth and maturity needed. I embraced it fully.
I accept my rightful and normal emotions and stay mindful of the need for them, but to manage them. I ‘avoid’ my emotions less, and I am overwhelmed by them less. I manage them better.
I know I am interested in humanitarian, volunteering, social justice, advocacy. These are ways that impact/help society in a positive and needed way. These are meaningful pursuits. But, I am aware of my limitations health/healing wise, impacting this and I am accepting of that.
I also know I need joyful activities that nourish and soothe my soul, like gardening, getting connected with nature, hydrotherapy.
There are many other areas of ACT I identify with, and I realise this is all heading in the right direction and is due to my willingness and need to seek wisdom, learn, grow, mature, heal.
I’m okay with where I am at and how my journey is progressing.