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Dishonest people, lacking in courage, minimize their own wrongs.

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People who lack the courage for integrity to honesty, will often either deny own wrongdoing, or minimize them. It’s how they cope. It takes a really honest person to fully admit wrongdoing, especially when it’s hurt someone.

This happened today. Someone minimized something hurtful. Minimized ‘laughing at someone’ (to the point of needing tissues due to ‘crying with laughter’)…….down to ‘smiling’. Instead of just owning the full behaviour, owning the hurt caused to someone, minimized it to something far more minor. And that is always how I know someone knows they have done wrong. You don’t lie in this way, when you have done no wrong.

This is dishonesty, lack of courage and lack of empathy for the person hurt. And selfishness, because lying to someone in this way, is defending ones own ego, not about helping the other person.

When this is a pattern of behaviour, I know I’m dealing with someone dishonest and someone who cannot be trusted.

It’s sad how little integrity to honesty people can have……. and yet they deem themselves ‘wise. ‘Wiser’ than someone who is honest, who does have courage and integrity. I think not.

Wisdom, humility and maturity requires honesty. And is not about minimizing actions and hurt caused. Something most people fail at.

But, the good part is……… I know not to take this personally. It’s that person’s issues, not mine. And I know to not expect anything else from someone who has patterns of this type of behaviour.

I’ll just keep being me…… and leave people to be them and have needed boundaries.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “Dishonest people, lacking in courage, minimize their own wrongs.

  1. Yeah, like my most recent abuser was vicious to me, then later on her husband minimized it as “a few harsh words” and tried to make me think I deserved it. 😛 Yeah, no.