I see plenty of people, with large followings, who consider themselves so wise and believe their outer ‘success’ proves that. Well, I have learned – often those with the biggest followings, outer success, have the least wisdom and simply have huge egos.
Many guru types fall into this trap and many outer success people, who consider their success is something to then tell everyone else, they ‘should’ have. The message, you are not good enough, if you are not like them. Shaming.
‘Success’ is a big society issue and I see many who are financially successful, and social media successful etc, and yet have little wisdom or character traits I value. In fact, many successful people are simply self serving pretty ruthless people, who will do whatever it takes, to be a success. And those with these issues, love to flaunt that and covertly shame others in the process.
I occasionally challenge such people, I did today. A woman who deems herself a huge success, has a following of over a million on Facebook, has sold a few books. She claims to have been cured of a whole range of chronic illness. No proof of ever having had them, I might add. I challenged her need to shame others, her comparing people and raising up her success/healing as the benchmark for all. The response was typical and what I expected. Assumptions (not questions) made about me and what I may or may not have achieved in life. The usual go to ‘don’t judge’ BS (simply because this person wasn’t being agreed with) and clear ego issues came out further. And then the classic, you must be jealous (narcissism), was projected. Of course to the unhealthy ego, if I disagree with this woman and I’m not impressed by her outer success…. I ‘must’ be jealous. No hope of that person looking within and considering my view. Nope….. straight to ‘you must be jealous’. *sigh.
I am not interested in who someone thinks they are, how many followers they have, what outer success they may deem themselves to have ….. if I see harmful shaming attitudes being projected about healing journeys or chronic illness, I will say something.
Because shaming others, is not okay. I have the empathy needed to know that.
And in doing so, if anyone else reading sees that, and realises they should not be shamed, compared etc, then I am thankful.