I’ve always been someone who can apologise for anything I do that is wrong, inappropriate. I don’t consider giving an apology based upon the actions of others if they have also done wrong. Or whether they should apologise first.
I just do what I know I need to do, regardless of the actions of others.
This belief/quote that “The first to apologise is the bravest, the first to forgive is the…..” blah blah blah…. is BS. That’s just raising up ego and having a need to be ‘better’.
If you apologise first, great. If the other person apologises first, great. It’s not a competition. The only need, is that both apologise. And it be genuine. With appropriate remorse. With honesty. And the heart wanting to put it right. And if the other person doesn’t, or gives a fake, non genuine apology with self serving motivations – well that’s their conscience to live with. And depending on the issue, the harm caused, whether repeated similar issues, depends on boundaries needed.
I just do, what I know I need to do, what my own conscience knows is right.