Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Dealing with stigma about mental health/illness/disorders, is a complex issue. Requiring empathy for others.


I see stigma everywhere. Including within the mental health industry and within those who are dealing with mental health issues. I see people with certain disorders, saying theirs is different, and shaming others in the process.

I see the deeper, bigger picture and do not want to shame anyone with mental health issues such as depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, OCD, autism etc.

I don’t intend getting bogged down by individual people’s opinions on certain mental health disorders, being treated differently to others, based on how they were caused. Fact is, most mental health issues, are caused by neglect and abuse in childhood. As most mental health issues, develop before adulthood. Along with genetic and environmental factors, adding to the likelihood of mental health issues developing.

I have the empathy needed, to see the whole and bigger picture about how the brain and psyche are affected by what happens to people and the resulting mental health issues. It is how people deal with that, that matters to me. How people treat others that matters to me. And shaming someone else, for having a mental health illness different to my own, is wrong. (Yes, how people treat others matters).

As the very inspiring Eleanor Longden stated in her amazing TED talk – she belives all mental health issues are ‘not about what is wrong with you, but about what happened to you’.


Schizophrenia, receives considerable stigma and shaming attitudes from many, and yet Eleanor has helped changed that. She was abused as a child, and the result being a ‘sane reaction, to insane circumstances’. 

I see how this approach is needed, across the board of mental health illness/disorders/issues.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

6 thoughts on “Dealing with stigma about mental health/illness/disorders, is a complex issue. Requiring empathy for others.

  1. That was a Great read. Thank you

  2. most mental health issues are caused by emotional neglect and abuse in childhood. Just that one sentence is so meaningful… Wish you would repeat it more often in your writings. Thank you.

  3. here is good one for you.. 20 years ago I had a grand ma seizure. In hospital 3 days. Had a reaction to a med. When I came out of hospital and went home , I was very embarrassed. I actually said to my witch sister. ” I am sorry if I embarrassed you” Her reply:……YOU EMBARRASED YOURSELF.


    • The abuse you have received from your sister, is very typical of narcissistic abuse. This will include verbal, emotional, psychological, mental abuse. The intention, is to tear you down, so you feel badly about yourself.
      There is no shame in having a seizure.
      The shame lies with people like your sister, in making you feel there is anything to be embarrassed about.
      People who project shame onto others, need to be avoided.
      So, please protect yourself from her and have good emotional boundaries.
      You don’t deserve to be abused. Ever. By anyone.
      ❤ ❤