Personal boundaries, protect us from the unhealthy issues of others. They protect our wellbeing and our healing. They are not a luxury, they are a necessity. And I no longer feel guilty about insisting on having them.
Having healthy boundaries, makes you a safe person. And not having them, makes you unsafe.
I have noticed some people with unhealthy boundaries, also have a lack respect for others and this shows in a range of behaviours. This makes them unsafe. And caution is needed.
I accept some people don’t have self insight into their issues and have unhealthy boundary issues as a result. Some people even when you raise the issues with them, they are unlikely to change. And some people gain pleasure from stepping over boundaries.
When someone displays ongoing boundary issues, I ensure I have appropriate boundaries, and whether they like that or not, I am not concerned. I don’t have soft boundaries, or co-dependently unhealthy boundary relationships anymore.
And this is a testament to my willingness to self reflect, change and heal.