I’m blogging this right now, because I want to say something to someone I know and I can’t. It’s not my job to point out how a mother is sexualising her daughter and how unhealthy that is for her daughter, and society.
A school mother I know, has her 6 year old daughter in dance classes. And the usual issues of applying a load of makeup and having adult hairstyles, is how they need to look for competitions. I’ve just seen these photos being shared on Facebook for all to see and potentially get shared by God knows who. The photos are awful. Face full of makeup, hair glamorised, skimpy/revealing clothing. I really feel for her.
Six years old and being told she needs to wear makeup, to look ‘good enough’ to win a competition. God, it makes me feel nauseous.
Six year olds do not need to be wearing makeup and looking like an adult, for any reason.
(And yes, they do experiment as children, with adult clothing dress ups etc, but this should only be in the privacy of home. And I still believe 6, is far too young for makeup and should still not be skimpy, revealing, provocative type clothing).
I’m glad I’ve done my research to know I am right about how unhealthy this all is. I’m glad my own capacity to know and see all the issues this creates, are correct. It is not simply an emotional reaction due to my own abuse. It is out of deep concern for children and how poorly they are parented, in many ways, often unintentionally.
I hate that parents do this to their children and loads of people condone it and encourage it. I see all the many unhealthy issues, to the child’s self esteem and body image. To the sexualisation issues and how this encourages paedophilia.
Of course, some of the mothers who do this are just completely oblivious to how unhealthy this is and see the makeup etc as just a bit of fun. No insight or maturity to realise what they are encouraging and how wrong this is.
I’m not saying parents are knowingly neglecting or abusing their children in doing this, but sadly that is the reality of what they doing.
No wonder body image related mental health issues are increasing, like eating disorders, along with child sexual abuse and porn addiction etc.
*sigh. Makes me so sad.