Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I’ve come to understand why some people can fail to have normal reactions/responses.


I am a very discerning person, having learned since being a child, to pick up on weird, potentially harmful behaviours. I have always been able to pick up on issues within people’s behaviours and attitudes, that are not healthy, not ‘normal’, in some way.

When people don’t display normal reactions to vile, disgusting, perverted behaviours/abuse, this raises as a red flag to me. I see not having normal reactions to what is clearly very abnormal behaviour that causes suffering in innocent people, is disordered in itself.

Being normal, is when people are genuine and therefore, safer.

It is not normal when people have non emotional, clinical reactions and thinking about disgusting vile people e.g those who enjoy sexually abusing children. And I will pick up on that disordered mindset, and that immediately flags to me, as someone not to be trusted, someone who is not safe.

People who minimize the suffering caused by severe and vile behaviours/people, are disordered in their thinking. People who make excuses for the people who cause suffering, are disordered in their thinking.

People can choose to believe they have empathy for vile people, as a coping strategy, and then project that onto others, sometimes feeling superior to others, which is also disordered thinking. And abusive in some circumstances.

People who criticise others, for having normal reactions of disgust and revulsion, about e.g. child sexual abuse, are also disordered and are simply projecting their own non human/non normal behaviours, onto others.

“It is no measure of health, to be well adjusted to

a profoundly sick society”

“It is no measure of emotional health, to be

well adjusted to sick perverted people,

who cause deep suffering intentionally”

It is all about self. It’s not in fact about other people at all. No matter what spin people put on it to rationalise their own behaviours.

I’ve seen this happen, where a mental health professional, criticised a well known child protection advocate for having normal human being reactions, about vile paedophiles/child sex offenders. The reaction and disgust, is in fact normal. But to someone who choose to remove normal human emotions, to e.g. clinically deal with such people, it is easier to criticise that normal human behaviour, than to recognise it is in fact normal.

It’s all about how people cope with basically what is evil, vile, disgusting and horrendous behaviour of those who intentionally make others suffer and enjoy it.

Many people, will resort to non normal, disordered coping habits, to deal with the reality of the suffering some human beings can cause to others, including children.

Coping strategies are often disordered. And whilst understandable, I will pick up on it and I will know this is someone using disordered coping strategies, which then makes them not safe.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “I’ve come to understand why some people can fail to have normal reactions/responses.

  1. Hi Lilly, thought you might be interested in this article as part of your ongoing research…

    “Why Sweden Just Opened the First Male Rape Clinic in the World”


    Thank you for all the work you do!

    • Thank you, I have read about this and I am so thankful people recognise men and boys can and are raped and they often can struggle even more with this. They face different challenges and this needs to be understood and compassion shown.
      I am so thankful for this organisation.