I’ve realised something about narcissistic people. They often are the ones living their life out on facebook, constantly posting several times a day, constantly seeking validation and approval of their lives. They often have a lot of FB ‘friends’, but very few real friendships. It’s not just about selfies, it is the constant seeking of approval of who they are, from anyone who will feed that to them. And you are made to feel obliged to participate in their ego fest on Facebook.
To the narcissistic person, other people only serve one purpose – attention, validation of their existence, feed the ego, listen to and be there for all their problems, but they actually don’t care about anyone else. They will pay lip service to other people’s issues, but nothing more. They will talk for hours about their own problems, and you are expected to talk for hours about their problems. But they will be bored and uninterested when you speak about your problems.
They are emotional vampires. Feeding on others. Giving nothing back.
Cut off their supply of approval, attention and watch how they react. You will no longer be required by them. You don’t fulfil your purpose any longer.
Boundaries are needed with people who use other people.
Real friendships are a two way street.
I seek to have friendships with mature, non selfish people. And I am building those, which is great.
I don’t intend being used, anymore in life. I’ve had more than my share of that.