I am thankful I can have conversations about human behaviour, with a professional. Especially one who has dealt with personality disordered people in her own personal life, as well as professionally. So understands the traits, well.
So good to explain all the witnessed behaviours, patterns etc of a person and then be able to ask ‘so is that typical aspergers behaviour, or narcissism behaviour?’ And be told it is narcissism, and not typical of aspergers, at all. I am not someone able to diagnose disorders, but I will take advice from someone who can.
It was also confirmed, that empathic people like me, will always be targeted by narcissistic personality disordered people. They sense empathic people and want them to become their ‘special’ friend, who they can emotionally consume and use. When you don’t fulfil their unhealthy demands, or you put in place healthy boundaries, they discard you and set about trying to split up friendships, called splitting.
Good to know this happens repeatedly to empathic people, simply because of their empathy. It has happened to my counsellor too.
The good part for me, is I tolerated the behaviours and issues with compassion, but became aware quickly of the depth of the personality disordered issues, and then made healthy choices – to back off and put in boundaries. All needed, or normal.
I will continue my friendships with the healthy people, who I see are aware of the situation.